When I was single, the 5 things that were most important to me in a future mate were:
1. Handsome/attractive - I need a little bit of eye candy. You don't have to be 'super fine', but I need to be handsome with some kind of facial hair.
2. Outgoing - I don't like boring men. I had one and obviously we are no longer together. I need someone who is open minded and willing to try new things. Life doesn't have to be an adventure everyday, but at least be willing to be open minded and try something new.
3. Book smart and street smart - I need a man who is well rounded
4. No jealous men - Been there, done that. Very unattractive. Looking back at my experience, he was either jealous or had serious trust issues. I immediately ended that relationship when he accused me, several times, about not being at work and not seeing my car parked in the employee parking lot. I worked full-time and my car was always right in one of the front 3 parking spaces.
5. No kids - I tried to date men with children, but there always seemed to be an issue. Either they still had feelings for their childrens' mother or they lied and painted themselves as 'Father of the Year' (more like father of THAT year) by having custody of their kids. Most of my experiences with men with children always ended up with men lying about the number of children they actually had. Instead of one child, it was more like 3 or 4 with one on the way.
Now that I'm married with two children, the list has slightly changed. My husband is all of the 5 of my previous list but I also like the fact that he has hobbies outside of his job that generate additional income. Some call that a 'side hustle'. Nothing illegal. To me, having a side hustle let me know that he wasn't completely satisfied with only working a 9 to 5. He was willing to go the extra mile to put a few more dollars in his pocket. This hobby also meant that he wasn't going to be up under me all day either. The ball and chain isn't necessary while in a relationship with me.
1. Handsome/attractive - I need a little bit of eye candy. You don't have to be 'super fine', but I need to be handsome with some kind of facial hair.
2. Outgoing - I don't like boring men. I had one and obviously we are no longer together. I need someone who is open minded and willing to try new things. Life doesn't have to be an adventure everyday, but at least be willing to be open minded and try something new.
3. Book smart and street smart - I need a man who is well rounded
4. No jealous men - Been there, done that. Very unattractive. Looking back at my experience, he was either jealous or had serious trust issues. I immediately ended that relationship when he accused me, several times, about not being at work and not seeing my car parked in the employee parking lot. I worked full-time and my car was always right in one of the front 3 parking spaces.
5. No kids - I tried to date men with children, but there always seemed to be an issue. Either they still had feelings for their childrens' mother or they lied and painted themselves as 'Father of the Year' (more like father of THAT year) by having custody of their kids. Most of my experiences with men with children always ended up with men lying about the number of children they actually had. Instead of one child, it was more like 3 or 4 with one on the way.
Now that I'm married with two children, the list has slightly changed. My husband is all of the 5 of my previous list but I also like the fact that he has hobbies outside of his job that generate additional income. Some call that a 'side hustle'. Nothing illegal. To me, having a side hustle let me know that he wasn't completely satisfied with only working a 9 to 5. He was willing to go the extra mile to put a few more dollars in his pocket. This hobby also meant that he wasn't going to be up under me all day either. The ball and chain isn't necessary while in a relationship with me.
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